What is bereavement or loss?
It can be very painful, sometimes seemingly unbearable, when you lose someone or something you care deeply about. The grief-provoking event could be the death of a person close to you, or a pet; it could be the break up of a relationship or the ill health of a parent, partner or close friend; it could be the loss of a job or a home or something else important to you and your future. It could be a whole range of events or situations that you find yourself having to cope with and it could happen at any stage in your life.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve and no set time limits to ‘recovery’. Grief is a normal response to loss. Some have suggested that grief has phases. For example, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book ‘On Death and Dying’, suggests that grief has 5 phases. The 5 phases are shown in the diagram below and you can find a full description of these 5 phases by following the link to the right of this page.
Kubler-Ross (1969) 5 stages of grief
Who can help?
For some people, giving their grief time, taking care of themselves, reaching acceptance will be enough. However, for some people grief can remain unbearable for a long period of time, it can be accompanied depression or anxiety or other mental health problems and it can become incapacitating. If you find yourself in this situation then you might need some help.
We offer a range of approaches to help you to cope with your grief. Our Therapies section takes you through all of the different therapies we can offer that might work for you. To help you decide which approach would suit you best we offer an in-depth assessment. The section Information for Individuals on this website explains the process.
There are other sources of help you could access and a range of links to local and national organisations are provided to the right of this page, including some links to self-help resources. In addition, if you think your grief has led to or is accompanied by mental health problems then you might consider approaching your GP initially.
There are a vast number of internet resources and information sources related to grief, loss and bereavement. The following is not an exhaustive list, but if offers a few starting points for you to find the help you require.